8 Incredible things my Lola taught Me
A grandmother is a living storyteller of a family. Treasure her always, for she has the wisdom and a perspective that no one else has.
Her words are like Acid — painful and strong. Her ways are unconventional — offbeat and original. She’s far beyond perfect, which is why I embraced my imperfections fearlessly.
Our relationship may be complex, with all the layers that come with growing up and getting old together, but we know we needed it to become the best team we are now.
I admit she is not the best teacher because she bends and breaks the rules for us to survive the test of life together, and I will never deny that we went through different stages of struggles as consequences of decisions not well thought out.
This warrior deserves more than just recognition and respect. It would be impossible not to learn a thing or two with everything life put her through. This year marks an eight-decade worth of celebration of love and lessons from a woman that sums up why grandmothers are the best mothers on the planet. You may disagree with that line, but I got eight beautiful things to live by under my Lola’s care.
1. God listens.
No one will ever give you the right answers other than the main Master up there. His words, not yours. His ways, not your will.
2. Learn in everything God lets you experience.
You are at your strongest when you are down and struggling. Rise above the circumstances; it is the Lord’s way of honing your character. That is your story to tell, your pain, fears, and failures. Own it because it is part of who you are and not what you are.
3. Forgiveness is a lifetime cure.
Forgiveness is not an indication of being flawless but a manifestation of being in a better place and a better state of mind. It is the peace of mind that YOU OWE yourself. It takes time and the right amount of respect to do it but be reminded that having a forgiving heart can save a dying soul.
4. Be honest.
It is better to be embarrassed in a second than be humiliated a lifetime for covering up a lie.
5. It is the responsibility on our shoulders that keep our feet on the ground.
In your grandmother’s eyes, you will always be that annoying kid that asks tons of questions that do not make sense no matter how grown-up you think you are.
6. You are tough enough to carry your cross.
Make use of those spines, kiddo.
7. Finish what you have started, no excuses.
Do you think she will make it for 80 years just to quit? She is someone that will push you on the edge of a cliff until you are brave enough to jump and give you that “Teh, ara gali!” (See? I told you!) look.
8. Live boldly.
For someone who has witnessed war and famine as a kid, it is hard to imagine how she could take it all and live a positive outlook in life. Keep on moving forward and never hate what you have been through because it shaped who you are. She told me that our past might be painful and scary to linger on, but we needed to go through that path to understand what kind of future we want and how much we should value our present.
She was not given the privileges and opportunities I had when she was my age, but that does not mean I know better than her. I am living the present she prayed for to be her future, and I cannot thank her enough for seeing me through. Her wisdom, wit, and faith are a cut above the rest.